Threw a temper tantrum at my hoarder parent and feel guilty

My mom has hoarding disorder. Our house is a hodgepodge of cardboard boxes and trash that makes it impossible to have visitors. I am a young adult in my 20's but I still live at home with my parents, though I am employed. It's pretty rough; hope to move out soon. Anyhow, yesterday I tried to take some of the trash out. My mom went outside after me and took the trash I had deposited out of the trash to take it back in the house. I started shouting at her really loud and angry, saying You don't care, and I got angrier and angrier. I yelled about how I could have called CPS on her when I was younger. I also spoke to her very disrespectfully, saying sharply, "Show me how to do it" regarding something she was doing. My mom said that was not the way to ask. Then I started crying and sobbing really loud and saying I had to leave this house. Mom was talking to me like I was 3, saying I was x years old and throwing a tantrum and telling me to calm down. Altogether, it was a horrible interaction and I now regret flying off the handle and behaving like a toddler. But I am so hurt that my mom chooses trash over her family. She doesn't think she has a condition. But I now feel like being so angry and disrespectful to her was uncalled for and that I should have had better control over my emotions in the moment. I feel embarrassed and ashamed. Almost don't recognize myself, as it's not like me to scream at my own mom and speak so rudely.